Relationships Thursday

Before u read this, u should know i'm really good at jumping from one subject to another and then go back to the first and so on. Try not to get confused.

Trust

Understanding

Communication

Passion

And respect . The most important thing.... something people don’t really seem to know much about so i'll just give u a few of so many examples.

Not being okay with certain things is not a problem. Its perfectly normal. The problem is what do you do about it? Should u do something about it or should you let it be? Some let things slide because they don’t want to be that girl/guy who's always in the way. Even if you as their partner have the right to, u instead draw the line. You want to be that understanding and loving person, especially when no one else is. That’s when he/she will see it the most. You simply don’t want to set too many standards. Why not? Don’t you deserve the best? “No ones perfect”, u're thinking. Well, there u're wrong. No ones perfect because what suits you might not suit someone else. So unfortunately no ones suitable to answer that riddle.

Most girls are satisfied as long as the man has a job or got future plans. Whatever comes with it doesn’t make any difference and some are just simply happy that they're with someone. If he's been out partying without you, if that doesn’t bug you “I trust him” then that’s cool. Doesn’t really have anything to do with trust though. If you, on the other hand, get this feeling that it's wrong, you prevent yourself from reacting. If hes out with his friends and u and the other girls aren’t invited. Sure, that’s cool because u don’t want him around you all the time. He isn’t that fun. But if you get that feeling again. Again, you don’t say anything about it. Instead u might go like * I really wanted us to kick it today*. Again, preventing yourself from reacting. If he has other girlfriends “I trust him”. Again, it doesn’t have anything to do with trust. If he watches porn “all guys do that”. No, they don’t. If u're okay with it then that’s cool but if ur not and u get that same feeling and yet you don’t do much about it, u don’t want to seem *controlling* in any way so u stay quiet and take it as it comes.

Some of you might think I just described the meaning of jealousy. “Jealousy is a bitch”. But could it possibly be that you want to have that special role as his girlfriend? The only girl that he can talk to. Only one who understands him. You are the only thing that can heal him from anger and sorrow. Is it a bad thing? If hes out partying without you and u dislike it, then just say so. If he doesn’t do anything about it, oh well.. at least he knows how u feel. The rest is up to you. If hes out with the guys only, then maybe u had that feeling cause you wanted to be one of the guys and that part is about feeling special. Ur the exception. If hes watching porn and this goes for the ones that’s okay with it too: I could care less if u're okay with it. Either way it shows no respect towards you so u're just plain dumb. ”I do it too.” Great then u're meant to be. When u're having sex, it should be special and i'm not talking about romantic stuff cause I'm not really into that. I'm talking about the whole doing it thing. Making love is just a way of showing how much u love that person, how much u care about them and no1 else matters. Bodylanguage. So how can a girl go that far with someone who jerks off to other girls? It's not your body he's watching while doing that and it sure as hell isn’t u he's thinking of which would only be humiliating. Say he's in another place and you can't see each other or call each other if he gets in the mood and there's no porn around. Is it okay for him to go F somebody? I mean, ur'e not there and waiting for you is not an option.(apparently). If he gets turned on by someone else, whats the difference if he goes all the way really? Double standard, I call it. Now, let's move on because this porn thing and people being okay with it is a mystery to me. Let's talk about something familiar to porn but just a little bit different. Let's say something nasty shows up in some movie u'd feel stupid to bring it up. It’s a movie and she only showed her boobs..oh and she's an old lady, grey hair in her early 80s… doesn’t have anything to do with looks really. It's all about respect. So to make it short, I don’t believe jealousy exists in REAL relationships. There's two people with two completely different point of views that share something special together. You should expect something different from each other so call it anything but jealousy.

Now if ur'e okay with all the things I've mentioned. U think having girlfriends is okay, partying, porn and so on. If hes out having fun, talking to his girlfriends (maybe about the problems u're having) “sometimes its better getting another girls point of view”, jerking off to some porn. Then really, what makes u so special to be his girlfriend? U're one of the girlfriends he can talk to and if he gets turned on by you, maybe even before watching the porn. Well hey, he gets to go all the way with you! Have some self respect.

All girls want to feel special in some way, preferably in every way. Don’t be afraid to have standards. There's no stupid demand and he wont think so either if u're worth fighting for. Guys, movies, music.. (u name it), have convinced people that it's all jealousy, why? What's their purpose? Should we lose our self respect and think that all this is all so normal. No one else cares so its nothing..? Should there be so much that goes against what you really want, you too finally think it's okay? Novels have actually made women think that there is no such man. They only exist in the novels. In the novels, classic movies, songs,, the men actually do most of these things mentioned without the girl asking him to(doesn’t include todays music and movies by the way) which in the end will only make us satisfied with what we get because that is so unreal and ridiculous. On the other hand, if the girl is the demanding one, they make her look like a power hungry freak, insecure, psycho bitch.

While the other girl. Let's say he cheats on her with who's suppose to be the tramp, is instead the understanding girl, innocent. The rescuer. So let's just face it: in one way or another, this world has and always will be owned by men.

There was once a time when men respected women. When women weren't afraid to have standards. It was our nature. And men fought to get the one they wanted. Men didn’t see the point of having female friends. They had names for those kinds. When seeing only your girl naked was a must. Where has time gone…I guess I was born too late

Why are all the men acting like little girls nowadays? They're to good to fight for whoever. They can't take rejections. Now if some guy u've been into for a while walks up to you, you throw yourself at him. But what happened to first impression? Afraid he'll go to the next girl? If he would, then I guess he didn’t want u that bad.

Women have wanted equality for a long time now and its gotten so exaggerated that men cant even open the doors for us. They cant be stronger and they shouldn’t let us speak first. Were not handicapped and so on. It's ridiculous really. But still it's not only from the womens side, men suddenly feel like they can too wear make up and not be fags. They feel that they should shave their armpits, legs. Fix their eye brows. That they are more secure in their sex wearing pink which makes no sense to me. None of this does.

Men are supposed to be stronger. There's weak men, sure and there's strong women but men are suppose to be stronger either way. If I was stronger than my man, I'd leave him in a heartbeat. Doesn’t mean I'd admit that I'm weaker. I'll just know deep inside that he's stronger than I am and that doesn’t bug me the least. In fact it turns me on. The shaving, make up, pink and all that feminine stuff is just too much and any girl who's okay with that should question herself if it's really a man she wants.

If you think all these demands sound ridiculous, you should see the rest of my list. I find something new that bugs me almost everyday. I'm special therefore I demand the same. I'm self confident, strong independent and I know exactly what I want and what I want doesn’t grow on trees. Either he'll love me for it or he'll never want anything to do with me. Either way, i'll know for a fact that he's never had anyone like me and never will. I wont be the one looking for him, never that. When he finally finds me he'll be my Mr. perfect and if he turns out to be a mistake, oh well... If he's not out there it's okay cause I'm perfectly capable of functioning on my own.